|
The knowledge of the other one is filtered by the difference of the psychology between the man and the
woman.
" The men come from Mars and woman of Venus ", this title of the book of J. Gray expresses in an embellished with images way this difference. Another author, J.Dobson, explains it by the fact that " the center of the feelings in the brain of the man is not
'programmed' in the same way as at the woman.
So, their centres of interest are different, and work differently: a metaphor says that the man lives in an ellipse, among which both
foyers, its centres of interest, are different, it will pass from one to another without
confusing them. The woman, her, lives in a circle: the two foyers are
confused, " she mixes everything ". The women tend to find their identity in the close relations whereas the
men find their identity.
Thus, the vision of the man by the woman will be filtered by this difference of mark. She does not see
him as he sees himself, and later, the woman will be disappointed by behavior which are normal from
his point of view, but considered by her as proofs of indifference, even
contempt.
A big effort and a lot of tolerance can, only, allow to surmount this obstacle.
Drawing of Carmoz, pulled(fired) by P.Daninos Ed's " Jacassin ".
Hachette.
And when the one both, for example by anger, or by quite other reason,
hurt the other one, he has to think of four small words who bandages these wounds, " I ask you for forgiveness ", and to say then, for example, " I was angry, I said things of which I did not think... Try of forget
If there is no immediate reconciliation, if we leave these wounds not been looked after by this simple means, the grievances and the rancor accumulate and the love is going to fly away.
How
To Make Your Wife Happy?
How
to make your Husband happy
?
A small
game to become reconciled
We speak about many of the beaten " women ", and it is true that it is an abominable phenomenon. But you should not forget that the women have the redoubtable power to
hurt or "to kill" their spouse by words of contempt, or sarcasms, which, repeated indefatigably to every domestic scene, have a devastating effect. The
man who have no this power of the word, can only undergo or react in this way.
Conclusion.
To love, it is not only credit note of the physical relations or to smile when we find the other one
pleasant. Make increase the love, it is to love: want the good of the other one, see all that
he does the good and not all add that he hurts. It is to try to please the other one. Look free of charge …
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/...n9_v22/ai_6583416
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/...happiness-in-marriage
http://www.jewishmag.com/87mag/marriage/marriage.htm
|
