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Engagement
It's
the first step when you really love someone and want to live with him...
Why
an engagement ?
Nowadays, in
occident, while most of the couples live together sometimes several years before getting married, the ceremony of the engagement no more seems to have justifications.
It remains nevertheless an occasion to
prove the intention of
make official the couple, and, for the families of the future spouses, to meet around a
meal.
Often,
they know themselves little, or don't know some of the members of the other family at all, and they can so meet. Furthermore, there are sometimes hesitations to this union, for reasons of social "level", religions or different nationalities. The official nature which takes the desire of their children can make them surmount these hesitations, and accept, even reluctantly, the union which is
promised.
Legal
status of engagement.
The engagement has, in
occident, no legal status. They can be thus broken without formalities. The good
custom wants that, if it is because of the woman, this one give back the ring which was offered to
her, while if it is of the man's fact, this ring can be kept by the abandoned girl.
Moral
status of engagement.
Above all, it is necessary to be
sure that it is not about an adventure which, to be strong, will there be less temporary, and as we really want to
cross the rest of our life with this person. The knowledge of the other one is, as much as possible, the necessary condition. This knowledge can improve during the period of the engagement, if it is not already acquired during the period of
a common life which preceded.
Beyond what say to you your feelings, your
impressions and your intuition, this knowledge of your partner can be made only by
the dialogue.
You will find, here,
a personality test which will amuse you, but will at the same time be an occasion to open a discussion about the most fundamental
subjects.
Another
test of mutual knowledge is besides
proposed.
A comparison of your deepest aspiration, of your "projects of life ", is necessary, before making a commitment more
profoundly. Some of Christian Churches worry about it. Catholic Church has Centers of
Preparation for the Marriage; it would nevertheless be necessary for all the couples.
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on
Catholic Centers preparing marriage
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"Catholic Centers to prepare marriage"
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Celebration
of Engagement.
For
some couples,
it takes place in the intimacy: on the occasion of a small feast organized to them, with, possibly, some very close friends, the man will offer the engagement ring to the "young lady", who, in exchange, will offer
to him, her heart. Which that time,
she can offer also to him a present which will mark this mutual promise; it maybe an attractive watch or, also a pin with tie, cuff links, a signet ring, if the style of clothing of
him support them. It is necessary to know that the men are usually very demanding on the style of what they
wear, and you should never, on the occasion of a present, want to impose a style which your partner will not admit.
In the most general cases, a festive meal,
gathering both families, is organized, to the one of them, rather to that of the fiancée, or in a restaurant. This one can be in the
campaign, what will produce an effect of convenient disorientation to get acquainted …
For that purpose, at table, both families should be mixed,
people of the same generation, to facilitate their link.
Announcements will be sent, especially if families have members too much taken away to come, and to the close friends. For these last ones, a small
feast can be organized to part, to the place of residence of the fiancés, if they already live
together.
This celebration is, in a sense, a small
repetition of the ceremony of the marriage, which will happens six months or one year later, except in exceptional circumstances.
If families are adapt of a religion, a simple celebration can be organized, for example to bless the exchanged jewels, if the couple is Christian.
The customs in various countries
To know how is done the engagement following your country or religion, you can make a
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Why ?
1
Legal status of engagement.
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Moral status of engagement.
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Celebration of Engagement.
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